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“There’s no one in my church that deals with homosexuality”

I think one of the biggest things the enemy has used to keep the Church from ministry in the area of homosexuality is the lie, “No one in our church deals with it so we don’t need to do that kind of ministry.” In relation when churches say things like the comment above, they are unknowingly saying “and we will make sure no one in our congregation will deal with it.” Research shows that one-third of gays and lesbians regularly attend church, going to churches across a wide spectrum of denominations and backgrounds. This means that it is very likely that there are people in your church who secretly deal with homosexuality along with the multiple people who are affected by it as a family member or loved one of a struggler. Surveys also suggest that between 60 and 70 percent of churchgoers know a loved one who has homosexual attractions. As W.P. Campbell said, “If those who experience same-sex attractions don’t sense compassion within us, why would they choose to risk themselves by opening up to us?” When a church decides not do deal with the issue or thinks that other ministries will take care of it, then they leave people to be washed away by a culture without opening up about their attractions.

Ministry to those with same-sex attractions is one of the weakest sections of church ministry. Many churches who have members with SSA send them outside the church to deal with the issue when in fact outside ministries should be sending them to the church for help. This is an area that cannot be left only to those who have dealt with homosexuality. It needs to be embraced by all of the Church. There are people silently suffering in your church who don’t know who they can turn to about their struggles. They need both the truth and grace of Christ. We need to stop being ignorant and begin acknowledging that people in our churches are greatly affected by the issue of homosexuality, whether as friends, family, or strugglers themselves. Yet it is not enough to simply acknowledge that people like this exist because many people acknowledge it and then try to thrown them into some group to shut them up. Ministry begins when we connect the brokenness in our own hearts with the brokenness in the hearts of others. If we could have a humble heart, acknowledging that we don’t know everything about the issue, and then be willing to come along side people and help them through their struggles, we will shine like stars in a dark world.


Religion and Science?

Is there any real conflict between science and religion?

Was Jesus Tempted With Homosexuality?

The Bible says that Jesus was tempted in every way yet did not sin and therefore he can relate to us in our struggles. But the question is, does that mean Jesus was tempted with homosexuality? John Piper gave an awesome answer here that I wanted to share with you guys.

Illogical Arguments Against God

It seems a prevalent response of atheists against the existence of God is that “evolution has taken away our need for God.” The sad thing is that many Christians continue discussing almost believing this idea. It is illogical. Many in Western society have come to think that the theory of evolution and the debate over the existence of God are connected. In reality, these two things do not deal with each other in anyway. Evolution is not a theory on how the world began but on how it developed. It does not answer the question of how the world came into existence. I do want to state that I do not personally believe in the theory of evolution because it has some gaps and logic problems. Yet, it is very possible that God could have created the process of evolution. Nothing is impossible with Him. He very often does things that we would not predict.

My main problem I am trying to explain here is that it seems the main arguments against God’s existence actually have little to do with the subject. The Big Bang Theory has been thought to be contrary to God’s existence, but in reality, whether or not it is absolutely accurate, it shows that this world had a beginning. No offense to the modern atheists but the ancient atheists held a much more logical stance than what is held now. What I mean is that a majority of atheists in the past believed that this world had no beginning. Instead it had been eternally in existence. This took out the need for a Creator and beginning. When an atheist today claims that the universe had a beginning but still claims no God, he brings logical problems into play. Not everything in existence has a cause, but everything that has a beginning certainly has a cause. Therefore something had to cause this world to begin existing and it must have come from outside.

To my Christian brothers and sisters, we need to be careful not to fight a theory or idea so fast because it is new. We do not need to embrace it or accept it in anyway, but we must rationally look at its evidence and effects upon the truths we already hold. Also remember what Paul told Timothy in his second letter, “Have nothing to do with foolish, ignorant controversies; you know that they breed quarrels. And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but kind to everyone, able to teach, patiently enduring evil, correcting his opponents with gentleness. God may perhaps grant them repentance leading to a knowledge of the truth, and they may come to their senses and escape from the snare of the devil, after being captured by him to do his will.”*

Fear of Knowing God

I have began to wonder one of the most scary and nervous thoughts about God I have every seriously contemplated. What if I have ignored some basic characteristic of God that would drastically change my view of Him simply because I was afraid to believe it? Of course God is naturally infinite and unable to be completely comprehended. This is one of the things that makes Him God. “For the foolishness of God is wiser than men, and the weakness of God is stronger than men.” Humans have this idea that after death all of our questions about God will be suddenly answered. In reality, we will spend eternity learning about God and being struck with wonder as one truth after another will reveal His glory to us. We will never know everything there is to know about God. This though is not what I was referring to in my beginning thought. My thought was what if there is something God has revealed about himself that I refuse to acknowledge simply because I am afraid it will change everything I thought about Him. You see, no man can honestly say that he reads all Scripture with equal weight. I include myself in this statement. Each of us has a circle and within it are the Scriptures we continually look to and use to form our basic idea of who the Lord is at the foundation. This includes verses such as John 3:16 and Ephesians 2:8-9. The farther from the center of this circle we go the less fundamental the verses are in our theology. Then you have verses that sit just outside the circle which are the ones we acknowledge yet have a hard time fitting into our ideas and systematic theology. Yet even farther from the circle are the verses which we try to ignore because they seem to contradict our thoughts about the Lord and theology. These last verses are the ones we come to hate (usually subconsciously). I think I get afraid of characteristics of God at time because I think of Him as one does a celebrity role model. In this way, fans fear that their role model will reveal a characteristic that will make them undesirable to follow. The difference between God and a celebrity role model though is that any characteristic of God we fear to be revealed does not make Him evil or undivine. Over the last year, the Lord has been showing me that this fear is irrational by revealing parts of his character I have ever hated to understand.

First of all, I learned that God is intentionally mysterious and hides Himself from the understanding of man. This gets very frustrating yet for some reason He does it. I am not talking about how He is naturally infinite and therefore unable to be grasped completely by the human mind. In Isaiah 55:8-9, the Lord says, “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.” Here God is clearly declaring, “I am too great for you to understand even if I were to plainly reveal myself!” Sy Rogers put it well when he gave the example of the Pacific Ocean. The Pacific Ocean is the greatest body of water on earth and even though I can go to the beach and swim in the waves, I still cannot know everything about the Pacific from the surface to the depths and from one coast to the other. Yet I can learn the basics of the ocean from my experience at the beach which is that it is wet and salty. Then on top of this infinite nature of His, the Lord also finds good reason to hide certain aspects of His character. Ecclesiastes 3:11b says, “Also, he has put eternity into man’s heart, yet so that he cannot find out what God has done from the beginning to the end.” This makes sense to agnostics most likely, yet it seems like complete bogus to most unbelievers. Some believers may even think this ridiculous and I understand because who desires to serve a God who hides Himself.

Why should He even hide Himself? I can honestly say I do not have an answer. It gives me a healthy fear knowing this God who saved me is so mysterious while He also reveals Himself. Isn’t that a contradiction though? How can He hide Himself and reveal Himself at the exact same time? It is very simple. The God of Christianity is not a God who revealed everything about Himself to humanity at once like Allah of the Muslims, who revealed Himself completely to the Muhammad. Instead the Lord, YHWH, revealed Himself over thousands of years including more and more revelation. It first began with Abraham and continued with Moses, David, and all the prophets until God made His final revelation through Jesus. Yet even as the revelation from God has been completed, He still has many things which He has kept hidden. He is personal yet mysterious, knowable yet infinite.

After learning that God hides Himself in certain ways, I found out a truth which expanded upon this and made me more fearful and confused than anything else. It is not always bad to be confused and fearful when it comes to God. At times it is very healthy because it reminds us that while we are his sons, we are also his subjects. It shows us the seriousness of our commitment to Him. Continually we (including myself) desire to put God in a box and try to tell Him, “You can do this but not that!” It is very laughable to think that we who were made from dust think we are able to understand the limits of God.

“Can you find out the deep things of God?

Can you find out the limits of the Almighty?”

Job 11:7

God is not systematic and will not be contained in out spheres of control. In this sense, I understand why He is called the Lion of Judah. Do you think you can approach a lion and know for sure that he will not devour you that moment? God is not tamable lion. In the book The Silver Chair by C.S. Lewis, the girl Jill desired a drink of water yet feared to go to the nearby pool because the Lion Aslan was standing near it. She had never heard of Him and was trembling with fear as she was dying of thirst

   ‘Will you promise not to – do anything to me, if I do come?’ said Jill.

‘I make no promised,’ said the Lion.

Jill was so thirty now that, without noticing it, she had come a step nearer.

‘Do you eat girls?’ she said. ‘I have swallowed up girls and boys, women and men, kings and emperors, cities and realms,” said the Lion. It didn’t say this as if it were boasting, nor as if it were sorry, nor as if it were angry. It just said it.

God is love yet He is also justice and unpredictable in all. Many times throughout the Scriptures God acts in ways that none of us could ever expect. There are times when we see think the Lord will bring punishment on people yet He ends up giving mercy. Then there are other times when we expect the Lord to be merciful but He punishes them instead. You cannot say that He will do this or do that unless He has said that it is what He will do because the one thing He is not is unfaithful. “If we are faithless, he remains faithful for he cannot deny himself.”

The next thing I learned about the Lord was probably the hardest and most undesirable lesson to learn about Him for me. The lesson was that God self-limits himself in many ways including actions and knowledge. This probably seems absurd to you because it did to me when I first came across verses that showed such things. The main thing with self-limitation is not that the Lord cannot but that He chooses not to obtain knowledge or such. If you don’t agree with this lesson, I completely understand and there is no requirement as a Christian to believe or not to believe it. I myself thought I would be the last person on earth to believe the theory of self-limitation. The first scripture that made me consider such a theory was in Genesis after the binding of Isaac. In chapter 22 verse 12, the Lord said, “Do not lay your hand on the boy or do anything to him, for now I know that you fear God, seeing you have not withheld your son, your only son, from me.” Tried very hard to come up with a theory on how the Lord could have know this before the event but it never lined up with the fact that He said, “now I know.” Another example of the self-limiting knowledge of God is in the gospels. In Matthew 24:36 Jesus says, “But concerning that day and hour [of the Second Coming] no one knows, not even the angels of heaven, nor the Son, but the Father only.” Of course this is different from the event in Genesis because only part of the Trinity is limited from this knowledge. Most likely as many scholars believe, this limit on Jesus shows His humanity. Yet still this is a form of self-limiting because by choosing to be fully human (while He is also fully God) He was choosing self-limitation. He felt saving humanity for His glory was more important. This lesson cannot be left here because the knowledge of God is not the only thing that He chose to limit. After the Flood and the ark had landed, the Lord promised that “the waters shall never again become a flood to destroy all flesh.” He therefore limited his future actions by making this promise.

So why does the Lord do this? Doesn’t it take away from God’s powerful nature? These are two very good questions. There could be many reasons why the Lord does this and the reason I will give may not even be one of them. As I thought about why He would do it, I got an interesting answer from my Old Testament professor. The idea is that the Lord becomes more relational by doing such this. His promises and covenants such as the one above with Noah are what begin relationships between Him and humanity. This is the very same reason for other self-limiting events such as Christ’s not knowing when the Second Coming will be. As I said before, this happened when He decided to become human and enter the world to save humanity. He made this choice to reestablish a relationship between humanity and the Lord.

As we learn more and more about the Lord, there will be times when our beliefs and thoughts on his character are corrected. The Scriptures are truly not systematic but naturally disordering to us, yet we can still find comfort in them and in the Lord. He is faithful, relational, and loving yet also mysterious, unpredictable, and indescribable. There is no one like Him in heaven or on earth. No false god or man-created myth can compare to His majesty.

Can You Be Christian and Gay?

People continually want a simply answer to this question and if a “Yes” or “No” is not given they assume you are simply trying to get around the question. The real fact is that it is a complex question with a complex answer. When a person asks this question, it must be deciphered what the terms Christian and gay actually mean or are thought to mean by the one who asked. Before anything, it has to be revealed what makes a person a Christian. Christian cannot simply mean that you believe that Jesus existed or that he was God. This of course is a big part of it though. Is it that you must “accept Christ into your heart”? I do not think so because never in Scripture is this phrase mentioned and it also leaves out a critical part of what Christians call “conversion.” Throughout Scripture we find two points that are continually connected to this idea of “conversion.” They are repentance and believing. David Platt defines conversion as the “divinely enabled response of individuals to the gospel in which they turn from their sin and themselves (repent) and trust in Jesus as Savior and Lord (believe).” So in this way, there are two parts which begin the road of being a Christian. If a man’s Christianity ends at this point, then most likely the man has not reached this point or Christianity at all. But how can a man know if this event in his life was legitimate or insincere? He can find it out through the presence of a process called sanctification in his life. When his life, actions, and desires begin to change to become more like those of Christ. So when answering this question this is the idea of a Christian that must be in mind. A person who has sincerely repented and believed in Jesus as his God and Savior and is now continually going through sanctification as his desires, actions, and life in general begin to transform into the image of Christ.

Though even with this idea of a Christian, it must be established what the question implies by the term gay.  There are two different things this term could be referring to in the question. First of all, it may mean any person with same-sex attractions no matter what his feelings or views are towards those attractions. The second one is a person  who holds a self-proclaimed identity of a gay man or woman and therefore practices homosexuality openly. These terms make a big difference in the answer of the question. If the first definition is implied, then it is without a doubt likely and possible for a person to be Christian and gay. No Christian is without worldly struggles that continue to tempt and try to bring him down.  If any man says he doesn’t have any such struggles then he is a liar and that is his worldly struggle.

Now if the second definition of “gay” is implied in the question, then the answer cannot be a simply “yes” or “no.” The answer is much more complicated then that and deals with many more factors. Many Christians may disagree with me in my answer saying I am too easy on sinful action while non-Christians may say I am being judgment. Actually those non-Christians are already probably saying such things. The issue is where the person’s heart is at in his walk with Christ. No man deals with all of his issues the moment after conversion nor a man realize all of the sin in his life immediately after becoming a Christian. I feel that if God were to have shown us all the areas of our sinful nature at the moment of conversion, it would scare us out of pushing forward. This does not mean that he hides truth and lulls us into Christianity. Some people He actually may do that to, but instead He does not deal with sins and issues until the proper time and place. So I doubt every homosexual believes homosexuality is a sin at the moment of their conversion. There are many I have met who said they had to put homosexuality aside in the issue of Christianity for a while after becoming Christian because they needed to figure other things out first. Some people are just simply ignorant of the fact that the Scriptures call homosexuality a sin. One Christian man that I know actually became a Christian at a gay Church. It was not till a year later that God softened his heart on the issue of homosexuality. The main point is that a person can be ignorant of Scriptures position on homosexuality and still be a Christian, but a man who ignores Scripture’s stance may need to question the sincerity of his faith. Above all, the question is: What direction is your life going in? If your life is aimed at Christ and becoming more like him, then God will help you with the issue of homosexuality and all sin. If you pick and choose what parts of Christianity you wish to apply to your life, then there is great concern and I will pray for you even though I may not know you. I do not say this in any sense of moral superiority but in understanding because I once found myself picking and choosing what parts of Christianity I desired and threw away the rest of it yet Christ awakened my heart.

Changing Sexual Orientation Does Not Matter

The main goal of my ministry or any ministry to the gay community should NOT be to get people to “change” their sexual orientation. If this is the main goal of ministries then its worth is nothing because in Christianity that is no where near the central mission. If I have ever made it seem that this is the goal of my ministry, I beg for forgiveness from God because that means I have miss placed priorities. If any person changes their behavior but does not receive forgiveness from Christ, it is worthless. How can we strive for sanctification without receiving justification? It cannot happen. Without being made right with God through repentance and forgiveness of sins, no character can truly change. They will simply be changes upon the surface with the same dead heart. A body cannot begin to live again until it has been brought back to life!! Without Christ, every man is condemned to hell. It is not straight people that go to heaven. Both straight and gay people go to hell unless they are redeemed through Christ.

“But whatever gain I had, I counted as loss for the sake of Christ. Indeed, I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have suffered the loss of all things and count them as rubbish, in order that I may gain Christ,….” Philippians 3:7-8

Nothing in life matters until Christ has entered the scene of our lives. Solomon found what happens when we strive for sanctification before finding justification.

“Then I saw that there is more gain in wisdom than in folly, as there is more gain in light than in darkness….And yet I perceived that the same event happens to all of them. Then I said in my heart, ‘What happens to the fool will happen to me also. Why then have I been so very wise?’ And I said in my heart that this also is vanity.” Ecclesiastes 4:8

When a man is give the gift of repentance and believes in Jesus as his Lord and Savior, his life will naturally be transformed. Many of my brothers and sisters in Christ, who I know, that have left the gay life did not do so till after they became Christians. Many of them became Christians either still believing homosexuality was not a sin or not knowing what to think on the issue. Does this mean their repentance was not sincere? Of course it was sincere. This I am sure of because God does not reveal all of our sins to us at the moment of salvation. If He did, I think it would scare us from trusting Him with our lives. Instead, He reveals our sin gradually as He transforms us into the image of Christ. “And we all, with unveiled face, beholding the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from one degree of glory to another. For this comes from the Lord who is the Spirit.” 2 Corinthians 3:18

The hardest part of course is not realizing our sin but giving over our sin to the Lord to become more like Him. We must always remember that we do not work in order to be saved but that our works come forth from being saved. As David Platt said at Secret Church, “We must not be legalistic which leads to contamination and condemnation. Work that is fueled by the flesh to earn favor before God is negative and unholy. Work that is fueled by faith to bring glory to God is the product of our salvation.”